Being dumped by a friend always hurts, especially if you don't know the reason why. You're probably feeling a range of emotions, including sadness and anger, and it may seem impossible to ever get over the pain.
However it's important to remember that getting rejected by a friend isn't the end of the world. You just need to give yourself time to process your feelings and learn from the experience.
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The first step in moving past the loss of a friend is getting in touch with how you feel. It's okay to feel all of those things, but you have acknowledge the emotions if want to learn and move on from the experience.
Listening to songs that you remind of your friend may help you acknowledge your feelings too. Visiting a favorite restaurant, coffee shop, or store that you used to go to with your friend can also help evoke memories of your friendship.
Avoid blocking off your emotions. But trying to block out your true feelings means that you can never really process them and move on. Allow yourself to feel the hurt and anger that your friend has caused, so you can work through them.
If you aren't sure how to express your emotions, using a journal to write down how you feel can be very helpful. Discussing the situation with another friend or a family member who you trust may give you better insight into what happened, and allow you to begin to move on.
Write a goodbye letter. Actually seeing or calling your friend again can be awkward and uncomfortable, though, so writing a letter can be a good alternative. You can take some time to really think about what you want to say, without worrying about being interrupted. Think of it more as a therapeutic way to bid farewell to the friendship, and write it for yourself instead of your friend.
Get rid of reminders. It helps to find a personal way to mourn the relationship, so you can begin to move on. Having reminders of your friend around after the friendship is over can be painful, so it can be a good idea to get rid of them to give yourself a fresh start.
It's also an effective way to help yourself accept that the relationship is over. Don't just toss the reminders of your friendship in the trash if you want to get rid of them. If the items are in good shape, consider donating them to a local charity, so you can feel like something good is coming out of the end of your friendship.
Clothing is an especially good item to donate. Ensure a night of good sleep by making your bedroom as comfortable as possible, with room-darkening window shades, earplugs, and new bedding. Keeping busy can help distract you from the loss of your friendship, so it helps to fill the time that you used to spend with your friend with new hobbies or activities.
If you always met your friend for lunch on Fridays, start visiting the gym instead. If you usually went to the movies with her on weekends, take a trip to the mall instead. You might sign up for a cooking class or join a softball league, so you can make new friends who share similar interests.